So I've been seeing this guy since April and I'm not even sure what to do about him. Basically we've become more of a friends with benefits than a relationship which is the opposite of what I wanted. I've made it clear to him that I want to go on real dates and he always says we can work that out, but then never makes the attempt to ask me on a date. It's definitely the typical I already gave him what he wants so why should he take me out. I've been distancing myself from him lately and I'm hoping that it works, but it doesn't seem to. The biggest problem is that I like him. He really fits everything on my dating checklist. Plus every time I try to walk away something about him pulls me back in. It's becoming a real problem. I know I should walk away, but I'm not sure when I will.
The Checklist:
- Older than me
- Smart
- Funny
- Attractive
- In school
- Job
- Works hard
- Cares about his family
[I don't feel like my requirements are that absurd]
I've also tried looking at other guys and talking to them. There is one other guy that I'm considering going on a date with, but I'm not sure how legit he is. Although he's a total cutie.
Anyways, I guess this one guy is why I haven't had much to add to this blog. I'm stuck! But if things aren't what I want them to be by 8.13.2012 then I'm forcing myself to walk away.
XOXO
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Your giving him a year? Wow. I can tell you as a guy that has dated many girls and knows the game very well....walk away now. I am sorry if that seems abrupt but, the sooner you realize exactly what you said in your blog is true that he already got what he wanted....the better for you. You see it goes even one more painful step deeper than "he got what he wanted so why go on a real date." What is even worse is....he more than likely already decided your holding him over until he finds something better. That sounds mean but, if a guy really likes you....he wouldn't have any issue going on a real date. Your only going to hurt yourself more in the long run and no your checklist isn't absurd...in fact you should be more absurd than that because a lot of guys fit in that checklist and most of them are going to be douche-bags. Just giving you an honest guys view. It will all work out the way its supposed to work. It just might not be the way you want it to.
ReplyDeleteOh I agree and you're not telling me anything I don't already know and the year thing is for a lot of things--new job, new apartment, etc. I've got a year to change things; not that I'll stick around for a whole year.
ReplyDeleteOh gotcha. Well...it seems you have plenty to do to keep your mind of the stress of this guy. If he wants to be with you in the manner you would like...he will start showing signs...but honestly...he isn't worth your time if its taking this long. Have fun for now while you get the other things done in your life. That's what I decided to do. Its working. :)
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